Another inspiring article today, this time shared by @nedkumar via @thoughtfarmer.
In Building tolerance for ambiguity Harold Jarche quotes Adam Kahane’s Solving Tough Problems:
There is not “a” problem out there that we can react to and fix. There is a “problem situation” of which each of us is a part, the way an organ is part of a body. We can’t see the situation objectively: we can just appreciate it subjectively. We affect the situation and it affects us. The best we can do is to engage with it from multiple perspectives, and try, in action-learning mode, to improve it. It’s more like unfolding a marriage than it is like fixing a car.
I think this is a really important reframe– individual improvements instead of an outside fix. In what way am I a part of this (any) problem situation and what can I do about it? Instead of watching TV news and shaking my fist or rolling my eyes how do I change my behavior to be more understanding, more effective. Instead of seeing something unacceptable and disengaging, what can I do personally to heal it? If I’m a cell in an organ how do I affect change?
