Reset My Default

This morning I was writing in my journal and reflecting on some experiences from the past week where I was in a virtual group conversation and I felt good about how it went. I presented myself well, made some connections, advanced my cause. Good work. But it occurred to me that I had entered each […]

Curiosity and Conversations

I’ve been working on the next series of episodes for I Always Wanted To. They’re reminding me what it’s like to be curious and interested in someone’s story. Lots of wise people talk about the importance of curiosity, and approaching life with beginner’s mind. But I find myself often avoiding that and instead being defensive, wanting […]

The End of 2020

I usually start my year-end review around my birthday in November. I take a look at what I’ve accomplished and what I’m looking forward to in the coming year. This year I am particularly grateful that the pandemic has not caused me much difficulty. My work routine is basically undisturbed. Our finances have not suffered. […]

Why is it so hard to stop doing what you hate?

When I think about doing what I hate a funny image comes to mind– flank steak.  When I was 22, I dated a guy who cooked flank steak for me. It was one of his two or three specialties. He would marinate this rather stringy cut of beef in Heinz ketchup and honey. He was […]

In praise of contentment

My manifesto says, “Do What You Love, Love What You Do, and Stop Doing What You Hate.” What I love to do is putter. And futz. Give me a life of puttering and futzing and I’m deliriously contented. Merriam Webster defines putter as “to move or act idly; to work at random.” Futz is a […]